Top 20 Wedding Planning Questions1. How can I let people know where I am registered?Word of mouth is really only the "proper" way to inform people where you are registered. You really must wait until they ask you or other family members. All friends and family members should be told where you are registered so they can inform others when asked.
Today, many brides are including cards from the Department Store where they are registered in their shower invitation. However, this is still NEVER done in the wedding invitation. 2. How can I ask for money instead of a gift?Actually, there is NO way of wording the asking of money for wedding gifts in lieu of something else without being tacky. I'm afraid this is a cardinal rule of etiquette that must be taken seriously.
The only thing you can do is tell your friends and relatives your preference. Then, when others ask, your family and friends can say that you would prefer money because you are ... (i.e. saving for a house, etc.).
Then, guests can do whatever they like. If they take the hint - GREAT - but if they don't, accept the gift with a gracious thank you! 3. How can I let people know that we don't want children at the wedding?The only thing you can do is NOT include the children's names on the invitations. However, you'll find that some people will still bring their children.
So you might want to be prepared with a "kids table" that includes crayons, coloring books, and candy. Some even hire a babysitter to look after the children at the "kids table".
Some brides are now having "adult only" printed on their invitations but again, even at that, some people ignore the printing and assume "their children" are, of course, invited. 4. How many invited guests should I expect will actually attend my wedding?The general rule of thumb is if you're having over 200 guests, then you can estimate that about 25-28% off your guests will be unable to attend. If you are having less 200 guests, then the percentage usually decreases to about 15-20% or less. Other factors include how many guests you invite that live out-of-town and the travel distance required to attend the wedding.
Remember, every family (and guest list is different) -- so always be prepared in case EVERYONE is able to come! 5. What is appropriate to wear for a second wedding?No matter whether it is your first, second or third wedding… the focal point is still the wedding dress. Many second-time brides choose a simpler, more elegant or sophisticated wedding dress. Many choose a floor length or cocktail length dress in white, off-white or a pretty pastel. 6. What are the Maid/Matron of Honor's duties?The main role of the Maid/Matron of Honor is to help the bride with the wedding planning. Usually, this includes hosting the bridal shower, helping the bride get dressed on her wedding day, holding the bride's bouquet during the wedding ceremony and witnessing the signing of the marriage license. Often, the Maid of Honor will go with the bride to bridal shows, vendor visits and bridal salons in addition to her other duties. 7. How do I personalize my wedding?There are plenty of tips and ideas to make your wedding unique and personal. But, which ideas are right for you?
Only YOU can decide. Think about what is important to you and your fiance. Think about special interests or hobbies that you share together. Or, maybe there is a special place -- the beach or some quaint little Inn you went to when he proposed. Incorporate THESE elements and these "feelings" into your wedding and it will be truly unique and personal. 8. Should I tip my wedding vendors?Your caterer or reception site serving the food will include their gratuities with your bill. So, a tip is not necessarily expected.
As for your other vendors (wedding consultant, band or DJ, limo driver, photographer), again a tip is not required. However, if you feel a vendor went "above and beyond the call of duty", then feel free to provide them with an extra tip. If you are concerned whether or not a vendor is "expecting" a tip, then discuss it with them. 9. What fee should I pay my clergy?Most clergy do not have a "fee" but instead ask for a donation. In this case, anywhere from $50 - $100 or more. A lot depends on how well you know them and whether or not counseling sessions were involved.
If you are still unsure what the appropriate amount should be - then talk to the church secretary and ask for an "acceptable range" for a donation. 10. What will be the biggest wedding expense?Your reception, including the food and beverages, can average 50-65% of your total budget. Therefore, the reception location you select and how many guests you invite will have the most impact on your budget. 11. How can I include older children in the wedding?Older girls, aged 8-12, can be Junior Bridesmaids. Other jobs for older children include passing out wedding programs, attending to the guest book or gift table, giving out favors or asking them to do a special reading during the ceremony. 12. How many food servers should I have per guest?This can vary depending on the type of reception you have (seated dinner versus buffet). One good rule of thumb is to have one server for every 8-10 guests. 13. How many table settings should I register for?When it comes to table settings, you should register for at least eight, but preferably twelve. Twelve may sound like a lot right now, but don’t worry, over time - you’ll use them! 14. When should I send my invitations?Invitations need to be sent out four (4) to six (6) weeks prior to your wedding date!
If you think that your guests need to be notified earlier, consider sending a wedding newsletter or save the date card three to four months before you send out your invitations. 15. How can I keep track of my guest list?Use index cards and a file. Simply write one index card per couple/family
or single guest. Include their name, address, and phone number. Then, include space to mark off if they have RSVP'd for the wedding and/or shower. Write down what gift they gave you for both the shower and wedding and whether or not a thank you note has been sent. You can also include their table assignment for the reception.
Another option is to track your guest list through a wedding software program or by creating a spreadsheet on your computer using Excel. 16. Should I purchase airline tickets using my married name or maiden name?The security procedures at airports require you to show a current picture identification. It is important to purchase your airline tickets with your maiden name in order to match your photo ID, license or passport. 17. Who should I invite to the rehearsal dinner?You should invite all those who will take part in the wedding ceremony to the rehearsal dinner. Spouses or dates of all adult attendants should be invited. Parents and grandparents of the bride and groom should be invited.
It is not necessary to invite the musicians or soloist unless they are close friends or family. If you're having small children in the wedding, the parents of the children should be invited, but many times the children will not attend the dinner in order to get to bed early.
It would also be a nice touch to invite out-of-town guests. 18. Are there any bridesmaid dress styles that look great on all body types?Try A-line dresses, which start with a fitted bodice and gradually widen. The basque waist style (low waist usually ending in a "v" shape) is also a good choice. 19. What are some other ideas for transportation besides the traditional limo's?If you still like the idea of riding in a car, consider renting antique cars from your local wedding transportation companies. Another option is to rent a sports car from a car rental company. The nice thing about this is you can have it for the entire day or weekend and it is much cheaper.
If you are looking to get really creative, consider hiring a horse and buggy or a trolley. 20. When should I book my wedding vendors?The general rule of thumb is to book all vendors 12-6 months in advance. However, sometimes the best vendors fill up even earlier. Don't wait to do this, as you may end up being disappointed.